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You said you found a relationship that makes you feel free. How has that changed your songwriting?
It changed so much. Three years ago I got out of this relationship that was just not working and toxic - we weren't each other's match, and we just hung on to the bitter end. After I got out of that relationship, I thought, "I just want a relationship that makes me feel free." I put that out to the universe, and I didn't have to know when or where, but I knew she was coming. I knew there was this great girl out there who would get me. And then sure as shit - I meet this great girl.
This next record - I'm all done, I just need to mix it and get it mastered - it is like feel good music. There are hardly any songs about me, me, me. It's about people and experiences and fun times on the road and people that I've met. People are inspiring me. Sometimes you just need a feel-good song, you know? You just need loud drums, loud guitars - so that's what we did. When the guys came in the studio, I said, "The only thing you're expected to do is have fun. One-hundred percent pure fun, so whatever we need to do to make that happen, just let me know." And we did. We had a ball, and we laughed a lot.
Your dad sang on your song "Marry Me." Do you have any other experiences making music with family?
My brother plays guitar a little bit. I like to sing with my dad as much as possible, because he's a really good guitar player. When I grew up, he played in polka bands and wedding bands. I loved listening to him, and he was a big influence on me and taught me how to play. I would love to record with my dad again.
You call "It's Not a Phase" your "gay rights song." What inspired that recording?
I was never really big on public displays of affection. I always felt like people were looking at me or I'd be judged. It was the 90s, and people were just kind of getting used to the idea of knowing a gay person, and they were saying, "I don't care what you do in your bedroom, just don't do it in front of me." I guess it was me just getting fed up and saying, "I just want to kiss my girl in the street. I just want it to be okay. How much longer will it take?"
I remember talking to a lawyer friend of mine, frustrated one time, and - he's an older guy, and he said, "You know what, Kristie? Your movement will not last as long as the Civil Rights movement. Yours will go quicker, so just hang in there." And he was right. Especially today, I can't believe - people are getting married, and I didn't even know that would be in my lifetime. "It's Not a Phase" is just about my beginning stages - it was kind of the first time I put it in song - "I'm out." It was maybe just an act of that - coming out to fans, or whoever.
How did getting sober change the experience of recording and playing music?
It was hard - I'm not gonna lie. For like three months, I didn't even step foot in a bar, because I was so scared. And then I wondered what it was going to feel like to get on stage and not be drunk. And I did it, and I'm driving home from the gig, and I feel great, and I'm waking up the next morning and feeling even better. I've been more productive than I've ever been.
I struggle sometimes with - it's late at night, and people are trashed, and it's hard for me to connect to people. I want so deeply to connect with people because I think that's who I am. I changed a lot - I started playing coffee shops and little living room parties, or something where you weren't stuck in a bar. Playing those living room shows is so freeing, because everyone is paying attention. There are people who really want to connect with you and listen to your music, and that's the best feeling in the world.
To catch all the downloads of Stremel's songs, see her SoundCloud page.