After more than 30 years of the Moral Majority (which I can argue has been neither), let's be seduced by something fun and pleasurable. In other words, how does each sign get its groove on ... ?
General Rules of Romantic Seduction by Element*
Fire (Aries, Leo and Sagittarius): After a shared, friendly competitive activity like sports, hiking or arm wrestling (aka showing stamina and sense of fair play).
Earth (Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn): Food and any physically shared luxury (aka showing purchasing power).
Air (Gemini, Libra and Aquarius): Conversation, debate and detailing elaborate fantasies (aka showing brain power).
Water (Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces): Preferably during or near water with music within shower, swimming or boating (aka showing emotional power).
"Weebles wobble, but they don't fall down." Some toy's promotional statement from 40 years ago (they were relaunched in 2010). "Fighting fire with fire" belongs to the Aries, Leo and Sagittarius folks. Passion begets more passion, like fire creates more fire. Turn us on and out, but take your time because no one wants a premature burnout. Pride runs deep within fire natives (sometimes more so than love), so dignity in seduction is a must when luring any fire sign.
Aries, March 20-April 19, initiating spiritual (fire, visionary)
Hello, spiritual being having physical experiences. You like confidence, a certain swagger. You like taking someone where they have not gone before. With sexy Mars, who stands for outgoing energy and self-assertion moving very slowly, you can feel your engine revving up in some exacting ways. Having specific fantasies about a co-worker? Nurse, doctor, French maid or ranch hand? You can pretend to be a virgin (or never have tried some sex act somewhere). Aries likes to be first. It's being that number one sign and all. Your self-esteem must be rock-solid, as it all shows on their bright and sunny faces. There are no Sallys faking orgasms here. When they are bored, they move on. So to keep them, you must be willing to do what you've "never" done and hint that there's another sexual romp just around the corner.
Leo, July 23-August 22, concentrating spiritual (building your identity)
Hello, king and queen of the jungle. Like Old Testament Jehovah (recovering Witness of his), "Thou shalt have no other gods before me." Each fire sign has issues about how to present his or her special brand of individual moxie to a willing audience. Aries will get out of Dodge, and Sagittarius folks will talk themselves into another willing bed. Your loyalty keeps you entranced for far too long. Keeping any long-term relationship in a love-affair grand-gesture mode works well for you, and having lots of money and time and attention to lavish onto Leo doesn't hurt either. Demonstrating that you have taste (even as you whisper naughty things in their ears as you stroke their manes) attracts Leo to you, too. Being one of the most theatrical signs, remember to role play, oft times some of the best sex relies on mad improvisational skills (of which Leo can be a willing participant).
Sagittarius, November 22-December 21, adapting fall
The postman may indeed ring twice, so these more-the-merrier folks can be pansexual, wanting to have any and all experiences. Their pride runs toward the brain, implying that they've missed out on adventure in bed as well as outside the bedroom. Knowing something (or someone famous) that they do not is an aphrodisiac, too. It doesn't hurt if your ego is as large as Texas, either. Travel (via food or plane) turns them on. With their ruling planet Jupiter (remember how many liaisons he had?) in physically driven Taurus, they should be on almost everyone's wish list. Sometimes it's best to get them early in the morning or a quickie before the party. That way, if their enthusiasm wanes later, you'll be sated and not frustrated.
Slow and steady won the race between the hare and tortoise. The fire signs spark quickly like the hare, but the tortoise moving at its own pace represents your sensual element. However, once you get started, your sustaining powers are legendary (hello, Taurus and Capricorn). Virgo, you'll probably have to clean the bedroom first, but with encouragement, you soon and efficiently catch up.
Taurus, April 20-May 20, concentrating earth (physical)
You were a foodie way before we had a term for someone who enjoyed eating as much as you do. The body is like a table of your favorite dishes (but unlike the body, do not come between them and their food). Secluded walks in nature with a picnic lunch fully stocked with the best food and wine work wonders. Talking about what you will do with each other while outside does, too. You also love your creature comforts, so a 5-star hotel should be in the conversation, too. Taurus rules the neck (remember the back and nape, please); it is a neglected erogenous zone. Unless there are some religious or shaming issues, walking around nude can be a turn-on (it is the natural confidence that they like). They have heat-seeking Venus in their sign until April 3, so get cracking.
Virgo, August 23-September 22, adapting earth (physical)
Drop an ice-cream cone or a piece of melting chocolate into the lap (ideally on something easy to clean) and watch them squirm. Even as they fuss over the mess, they get excited about being a dirty (read: naughty) boy or girl. Find precisely which fetish they possess. Those Catholic schoolgirl fantasies that Brittany (and Madonna) played up work wonders. This is the sign of sadomasochism (along with Pisces), so once they trust you, the sky is the limit with safe words. Confess your sexual desires while you reinforce their sexual attractiveness. Having a large brain (and knowledge about sex and the body) helps. Know what meaning Dan Savage gave to the word santorum. Promise to discuss no details of your encounter. Read the air sign of Gemini (they share Mercury, the planet of communication, as ruler). Like them, sexting is an invention of theirs. (Does Virgo Congressman Anthony Weiner ring a bell?)
Capricorn, December 22-January 20, initiating earth (physical)
Start with your business card. Unless they are at the top of their career (and they desire a playmate they can totally control), Caps want to know what you do when you're not doing them. Professional and repressed on the outside, they can be awfully needy for reassurance when alone. Remember to not use their insecurities or their sexual fears against them, ever. Discretion and maturity win out over a need to deflower the uninitiated, yet they have marked control issues, so they are not beyond training a younger or more inexperienced partner (cougar, anybody?). With sexual Mars in their ninth house of adventure until July 5, they should be open to having more fun than almost any other sign.
It's been said repeatedly that "the brain is the largest sex organ." Whether you're growing or showing, implanted or au naturel, for you of the air tribe state, "no mind, no love." Now, that does not mean you cannot be a free spirit with your body, but the physical and mental can be separated by you, albeit too easily.
Gemini, May 21-June 20, adapting intellectual
Read Virgo for a clue. Generally you are not nearly as repressed. However, you enjoy being persuaded into behavior you've fantasized about for more than a spell. If you want an afternoon sex romp, be ready for what Gemini Prince sang, 21 positions in a one-night stand ("Get Off" lyrics). They get bored relatively quickly. Dirty talk and Wall Street Journal knowledge are musts. Instant seductions also work. Getting coffee, sharing a taxi or subway ride. "Are You Gonna Go My Way?" was written by Gemini Lenny Kravitz and Craig Ross. Remember Gemini rules urban life and its quick pace. As soon as an air sign (Libra and Aquarius are the other two) thinks it, it becomes reality. Move closer and see what happens. Be warned that it works the other way, too. Be repelling or show up for a battle of wits (unarmed), and the Twins will bolt.
Libra, September 23-October 22, initiating intellectual
Being the sign of initiating all forms of relationships means that you must start your seduction talking about relationships. On a cynical tip, not only are these folks always in a relationship (or some form of one) but they also can be looking for a better version of their current squeeze. My favorite is seduction by assumption. You confidently keep moving the connection toward your favorite place to get busy. Go to a relationship workshop and back to your home. Then use seduction by assumption with a rhetorical wrap-up of what you've both learned at the workshop (remember this is a mental air sign, so thoughts are things). When all else fails, invite them over for the sincere candlelit dinner (personally cooking gives you an excuse to show your investment in the relationship). With Venus moving into Gemini (their ninth house of philosophy, adventure and risk taking), get focused on your persuasive skills because their dance card is about to fill up.
Aquarius, January 20-February 18, concentrating intellectual
These individualistic and freethinking folks must be enchanted with your free thinking and free-spirited nature. Have them think differently about what they think they know a lot about, and they'll be undressing as you speak. The body does not have to be perfect, but the mind has to be open, tolerant and accepting. Label them at your own peril. Remember this futuristic sign created the concept of "friendship with benefits." As the sign of agape (unconditional love) and philia (brotherly love), you do the seductive math. The line between friends and lovers is not made by paint, but by a dry-erase marker or chalk. Who they won't do is "stupid," so if that's true, parrot someone else's perspectives. Watch out, though; they have brain power to recognize a hypocrite almost in their sleep. Such trendy terms as "bromance" and "girls' night out" speak to their ability to appeal to both sexes almost equally.
Members of both sexes, even these people's auras are sensitive. So at least say you know how to and you do not mind a cuddle afterward. Nothing hurts a water-sign person more than the feeling of being turned on, out and left to dry without time to adjust to being singular again. After all, water signs have a memory of what it is like to still be in the womb. Yes, really.
Cancer, June 21-July 22, initiating feeling
And, as the first water sign, born from the source of all life (our mother's womb), you can be the last one to cut the umbilical cord, symbolically speaking. This makes seduction easy (if you harbor resentment or abandonment issues). Cancer people thrive on being needed, so all we have to do is be wounded. Allow yourself to be rescued and you are theirs ... until the next damsel or man-child comes along. When healthy, though, they are the masters of intimacy and accommodation. The stomach and chest areas are extremely prone to seduction. Also, tell them how you've been hurt and watch their reassuring mannerisms cause you to be lying in suggestive postures. Like Libras (their nemesis), sentimental and romantic movies with candlelight work wonders. Please, no seduction on an empty stomach; in this way, you'll end with hurt feelings.
Scorpio, October 23-November 21, concentrating feeling
This mysterious sign of the zodiac will not think that talking about the possibilities of past lives and archeological digs or Harry Potter is nerdy. Their minds focus not upon the physical aspects of the sex act but the psychological motivations of what draws souls together. At first, they'll come off like an air sign (Gemini, Libra or Aquarius), acting all detached and scientific, getting to know what you like and what you've done. Remember, this is an act. They have two speeds: detached and to hell and back. They're interested in discussing any and all taboos, S&M, fetishes and threesomes, etc. Notice that I said, "discussing." They'll draw you out to see where your limits are. So, be the vamp or cocky male, but make sure you're able to deliver and not as quickly as a Domino's pizza. They want foreplay to be drawn out. Brains are as important as the body, but they'll never tell you directly. They feel, if you've been paying rapt attention, that you'll know what to do. Reading sexy books works, too.
Pisces, February 19-March 19, adapting feeling
After you rescue them, realize that fish respond to bait. A bit of male cleavage here or an unbuttoned blouse there, and you're at least in the front door. You can tell much by the way they hug you. If below the waist ever touches, you're near the bedroom. Having a flaw or two never hurts. They are the original beauty and the beast. Like Scorpio, they will not judge most books by their covers, if you have a sensitive and complicated narrative. Bad boys must possess a heart of gold or take care of a younger sibling. Bad girls must be willing to play the Madonna/Whore scenario. A nurse with a killer smile gets pushed to the head of the transplant line. Seduction begins and ends with their feet. Tend to them and you're in like Flynn.
*Inspired by Seduction by the Stars, written by Ren Lexander and Geraldine Rose.
The rising sign, aka ascendant, represents your approach to life and the mask you wear. Read that sign as well to get additional information.
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