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Wiglesworth says Aubrey felt that her mother had responded to the situation with suspicion, which created a bigger divide between mother and daughter.
"I think Aubrey avoided her mom and I think her mom kind of didn't trust her for that," Wiglesworth says. "If she could hide that, what else was she hiding?"
Rebecca Owen says she never saw any signs of depression until after Aubrey gave up Samantha. She says she wishes that she had forced Aubrey to get therapy.
Instead, Owen enrolled at Kansas State University in the fall of 2001. Owen wanted a career so that she could help Samantha if her daughter one day came looking for her.
She pledged Chi Omega. Rebecca says her daughter loved sorority life the parties, the sisterhood, decorating floats for homecoming. She felt as though she belonged. But she still struggled with the memory of Samantha from time to time. Before she left for school, Owen had written and received letters from Samantha's adoptive parents. When she went to K-State, she lost touch. "That's when I hit a depression," she says. "Because I no longer knew about her development or how she was doing."
When Owen took psychology during her sophomore year and began to learn about child development, she says, "It just really started opening up wounds that were hard to deal with, with the loss of Samantha."
Overall, though, Owen seemed to have adjusted. Then, in February 2003, she went to a party at the Alpha Tau Omega house.
After her arrest for abandoning Izabella in the Dumpster, Owen gave slightly differing accounts of what happened that night. In the videotaped interrogation with Wall, she claimed that a "one-night stand" took advantage of her because she was drunk. Later in the interview, she called it a "date rape" and said she didn't want to talk about it because she'd known other women on campus who had tried to prosecute date rapes and failed.
Jay Owen was convinced that his daughter had been raped. She could hold her liquor, he says; it would have taken a lot more than a few beers for someone to lead her into a bedroom. "She can hang," he says. "We've been down tailgating with her, and she can go all day long."
But there was no proof. Jay Owen figures that investigating the fraternity would have been a hopeless cause. "Who are you going to get?" he asks. "Are you going to wipe out the whole house?"
In the months that followed, Owen knew that she needed help, says one sorority sister who asked not to be named. It was the fall of 2003, and Owen was secretly pregnant, living off-campus in an apartment.
"We went to lunch sometime in September, and she was kind of explaining some of the depression she went through," the sorority sister says. "I didn't want to pry, though, because I didn't really know of some of the problems she'd had in the past and how every now and then it snuck up on her."
She says Owen was a great and caring friend but didn't seem herself the outgoing girl who liked a good party. "She just seemed a little bit like a loner fall semester.... I thought that was a little bit of a red flag."
By the end of the next month, Owen had given birth and Johnson County prosecutors had charged her with unintentional second-degree murder. The autopsy revealed a twist in the evidence Owen had taken cocaine in the 48 hours before the birth. Though Handler said at a preliminary hearing that the amount of cocaine in Izabella's bloodstream probably wouldn't have caused the baby's death, it didn't help during the unassisted childbirth.