Lindsey Corey was supposed to be getting married to her boyfriend of four years on Saturday. But 38 days before the big day -- the day before Easter -- she found out her pastor fiance was cheating on her with a woman that he'd met while studying at a seminary in KC -- a married mother and seminary student.
Corey had suspected that he was cheating on her, but he denied it over and over again. Then, on the eve of Easter, she discovered explicit chats between her fiance and the woman (Corey's fiance had given her access to his e-mail to help him with work stuff). She saw chats and phone calls over the course of seven months -- chats and calls that took place on the same
days that her fiance was picking out his suit and flowers for the
wedding.
"He was going to let me walk down the aisle," Corey says. "At least I found out before."
Corey called off the wedding and hasn't seen her fiance since.
Meanwhile, he sent an e-mail to the wedding guests confessing that he'd
lied and cheated.
But Corey hasn't canceled all of her wedding
plans. Corey had a donation dance planned for the wedding to honor the
memory of her father, Jeff Corey, who died of a massive heart attack 10
years ago. The money from the dance was going to go to the American
Heart Association.
So Corey started the "Healing Hearts" fund to raise money for the American Heart Association.
Corey's friends are calling Saturday "Vee Day" (Vee is Lindsey's middle name). They'll be trying to keep her busy all day. Then
they'll be hanging out at the Levee from 7 p.m. to close, and Corey
will be trying to raise money for the Heart Association.
"It's not about the wedding dress that I won't wear or the
chocolate
fountain," Corey says. "It's just that I thought we were going to be
able to do some good that day. This is an opportunity to kind of turn
it around a little bit."
So far, Corey's raised $465 online for the American Heart Association.
"Hopefully the money that they would have spent on a toaster, they'll give to the Heart Association," Corey says.
If you'd like to make a donation to the American Heart Association, here's the way.
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Rest of her life? Really? 37 days after she found out, our friend started a fundraiser. It's the opposite of revenge.
You don't understand her intentions and can't know if she has forgiven, but she shouldn't go to Cheating Pastor for advise on that. He missed the parts about adultery in the bible so he's probably no expert on forgiveness.
And who is the bitter woman? Why are you still posting attacks on the victim who has moved on after Cheating Pastor publicly asked you to stop?
This woman is insane. She has been on a non-stop rant about this since the day it happened. She could care less about raising money for charity. This is all about HER.
Sorry, Lindsey, that you got cheated on. That is unfortunate. But people get cheated on daily and don't spend the rest of their life plotting revenge. Your behavior since you found out tells the rest of us why a man would cheat on you in the first place--you are a bitter, bitter woman.
Maybe your ex could teach you a little about forgiveness.
:)Looks like the American Heart Association got it right after all...
here's their quote:
�It was such a sad story but she turned this bad situation into a great one. She�s now going to take that money and help save lives of fellow Kansas Citians. What�s better than that?� said Ciara O�Brien Murray of the American Heart Association.
from another blog @ http://www.inkkc.com/pamela+sp...
Kindly disregard the mistaken message above.
The last line of the blog says HERE'S THE WAY in red indicating that there is a link. The author's obvious goal(and Linsey's when creating Healing Hearts and being interviewed) is for people to click on those 3 words to see the Healing Hearts page and story and donate.
Luckily the American Heart Association has not deleted the page that clearly states Healing Hearts is to honor relatives of Linsey and the pastor who died of heart attacks.
It looks like relatives of both agree its worth supporting even if a staff member does not.
I apolgize for the 2nd comment. I thought I was emailing that to Megan Barry.
My respects to each of you.
This story is nothing like what is on the American Heart Association Page. I don't know who you are but do not use a good foundation to deal with your personal issues. I am going to speak with Megan about removing this page which goes directly against everything the American Heart Association is about.
someone needs to get their head screwed on straight because the above links only goes to paragraphs in the story.
Dear American Heart Associatin rep,
Please read the Healing Hearts page on your site that this blog points to.
It says it best, well intended & from the heart for the benefit of other hearts.
Let's hope readers of this click the link and donate to this great cause knowing the intent in which this special fund was started.
I work for the American Heart Association and this is not what we represent. We want donations because it goes to an amazing cause which is to save lives,to help families in time of crisis, but the above article doesn't promote the fund and seems to only bring attention to the cheating person. I am amazed that my company would allow this article to be presented and as an employee, this is a disgrace to the American Heart Association and what we represent.
Hopefully the fundraising effort won't stop now that the day they would have been married is over. The healing needs to continue.
Lindsey,
I am very proud of you and I know your dad would be too :) You have served his memory in a heartfelt way on your day....keep your head up, we love you!
Like cheating pastor wrote himself, she was wonderful in the relationship and is clearly remarkable now and will continue to be.
People do not have affairs because of the victim.
If Lindsey could actuallyremove comments, dont you think the lies and attacks that are really "poor taste" would not be on here and only comments asking to donate would be??
Whoever posted an except from Brad's email needs to remove it or Lindsey and Justin need to have it removed. That was something deeply personal that Brad wrote and did not anticipate being broadcast on the web. Not only is it deeply disrespectful to Brad but also to Lindsey and everyone involved. We received that email in confidence and it was devastating to all of us. This is something so personal to everyone and to have posted this email is in poor taste. I'm not defending Brad or his actions. We all know what he did was wrong, but it would be nice if we could all try to be respectful of everyone involved and work to help them get through this difficult time.
$650 raised plus. please keep it up b/c the cheater and the victim want to make a difference. really, that's all that matters here. please help them make the world a better place.
WOW! How does that happen? now my husband wont even think of going to church with me - darn it! I almost had hiom convinced to give it a try
Probably not supposed to be writing this. But, Anon. # 1, how dare you? If you are a part of my family or circle, then I want to know. If not, then butt out. Actually, even if you are, butt out. LIke Lindsey said, I changed everything but who she is. I owe her what I owe her, which is so much more than a couple thousand dollars, and that's no one's concern but her's and mine.
Lindsey, what you are doing here is amazing. You truly are wonderful. I have to live with destroying something perfect and beautiful for the rest of my life, but you are already making the world a better place.
I'm not writing with the intention of making a good impression of myself. But, I also can't pretend I don't care what people say about Lindsey. I took beauty out of the world by destroying this relationship and will find a way sometime in the 80 years I have left to replace some. Lindsey is already doing so. What I did is horrific. What's she's doing now is remarkable.
Oh, and my name's Bradley James Bryan.
I have been asked to retract the first comment on here or this is going on Oprah and the said fiance's name will be annouced and all family members will be involved. I will not take back what I said. However, I will say that what I said was out of anger for making this a public forum. There are a lot of feelings pain and hurt on both sides and both families are equally divided. I have no shame in what I wrote and my family already knows all about it so I will not take it back, but I will admitt that I was very angry when I wrote it. I think a lot of wrong doing was done over the past 7 months before this happened. I will never condone what happened. It was wrong very very wrong and Lindsey was the innocent party in this. My problem is that the article isn't focused on what the true intention was, which was to raise money for the american heart association. It focused on what said minister did. That is so much more hurtful to my family than anything else.
We are all hurt and this is all deeply personal to us all. I would ask that you give to the American Heart Association in Lindsey's fathers memory.
Seriously, how can you fault the poor girl at all here? A pastor, of all people, was cheating on her! She has the right to do whatever the heck she wants.
what's with all the anonymous. Here I'll start...my name is Anastasia.
And i think everything that Lindsey is doing after all that she has went through is very courageous. Good for her for sticking true to her VALUES. Good to see some people still do have VALUES if you ask me.
i think i'm going to go online and make a donation now. i admire you for keeping true to who you are and helping to make a difference in this world.
rock on girl!
"exploiting innocent people" to give money to The Heart Association? Ha ha ha. That's such a ridiculous thing to say.
The person making the ugly accusations about Lindsey must not have gotten all the information. Here are the cheater's own words (from an e-mail that HE sent - including misspellings):
"I am a lost, broken, pathetic liar and cheater. I have caused so much pain to so many people its incalcuable. My manipulation and deceit are so great. So huge.
I used my friends. I lied to each of you everyday for the past 7 months, including when I got caught and lied some more. I did this. It is dispicible, unbelievable, unthinkable. I am a liar. I am an adulterer. I did this. I am this. I am sorry for the pain and disappointment I have caused."
Lindsey wasn't using this story as a vehicle for further trashing her ex-fiance. There's no need to since he's done such a fine job of that himself. Rather, as you've so ignorantly missed, the point of this story was that Lindsey's still following through on her and Rev. X's plans to help others and recognize her loved ones through charitable giving.
No one wishes ill to the former pastor, and we all hope he learns from this experience and grows into a better person. Perhaps you might do the same.
Anyone who has ever been cheated on, let alone called off a wedding, deserves to mourn in whatever way they choose.
Who wouldn't go party to forget what happened to you? Give the girl some credit for raising money while she recovers. Kudos to Lindsey!
"UNFORGIVABLE??" Cheating is unforgivable. Especially if you're supposed to be a man of God.
Wow....talk about not letting go. Letting all of KC and more know all about this? UNFORGIVABLE. What people should know is that you have been out partying every night...picture above taken after this happened. Anyone can go to facebook and check out all of her party pictures over the past couple of weeks. Seems to be doing just fine. Now exploit the situation in a public paper. What isn't noted is how the other party is. He lost his career, his home, his fiance, family, himself. Will never be the same. He has definitely not been out enjoying his freedom and partying it up. Oh and lets add in how you are demanding thousands of dollars from him for pain and suffering. Good luck on that one! Have plenty of pictures to prove otherwise. Oh and demanding money (through an attorney) for a person who lost his job. Wow you truly are a stand up person. You are totally milking this and using a paper to get your story out and trying to use the American Heart Association as a reason to exploit money from innocent people is unforgivable. Shame on you.
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