Posted
by Justin Kendall on
Fri, Jan 15, 2010 at 4:41 PM
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Tess Koppelman
A little more than a week ago, police say a 14-year-old girl was murdered (allegedly by a family member) in rural Cass County.
As Katie Rios' friends, family members and onlookers grieved on a Facebook tribute site, local reporters were offering their own condolences, some sounding as aggrieved as if they'd actually known Rios -- and in the next breath cattle-calling the mourners for anyone willing to go on camera to talk about Rios' life.
Those expressing condolences and then issuing blanket requests for comments included Fox 4's Tess Koppelman and a producer working on behalf of KCTV 5's Eric Chaloux. KSHB's Russ Ptacek avoided the dramatic emotions and was forthright in his request for comment.
To us, the heavy-handed condolences made the TV journos look like vultures. And the Facebook spamming looked lazy -- how would they differentiate Rios' real friends from someone who just wanted to be on TV? It looked to us as if the TV reporters didn't want to make the effort or take the time to send a direct e-mail to the person who created the page or individual messages to Rios friends.
Koppelman responded to my post on her blog, Reporting Live. She titled her post "Those Evil Vultures." She joked about the TV reporter stereotype of being heartless and
soulless and learning how to swoop in like a vulture in J-school. She also called me
"self-righteous" and wrote that she doesn't take the criticism personally. Thanks, Tess -- and sorry I misspelled your name in the original post. Then
she pointed out something I hadn't seen.
"My parents responded in the comments section. I was a little
embarrassed at first when I read it, but then I realized that what my
parents wrote was beautiful and touching, and speaks passionately about
the human condition."
She's
right. It is a sweet note. So this week's comment of the week goes to
Koppelman's parents, Jan & Kent, for their heartfelt defense of
their daughter:
As
parents who tragically lost our son at age 19, we would like to say
that while we never had a microphone thrust in our face, we always
appreciated the expression of concern and condolences, no matter the
source. And because our son was working off camera at a TV station when
he died we were very touched when the anchor expressed on-air
condolences to Jason's family and friends. We taped that and still have
it. Twenty years later we still weep when we watch that.
The media can help to make connections among people and tell the
stories of those who are lost. Some do it better than others. Tess
Koppelman does an outstanding job in our opinion - probably because she
remembers the difficulty of losing her brother, Jason, 20 years ago on
September 13, 1989. We know that she is not just doing her job, but
that she is doing it with compassion and caring. We know that, because
we know her well. She is our daughter and best friend.
Reporters see so much tragedy in their work, and we have seen our
daughter weep privately over some of those stories and rage over
others. Reporters are people with feelings and families and histories.
They want to tell the stories to humanize the tragedies. We want to
hear the stories to become more human. We all become connected when we
do so. As Garrison Keillor has said, "grief makes relatives of us all."
Comment of the Week: Tess Koppelman's parents
Posted by Justin Kendall on Fri, Jan 15, 2010 at 4:41 PM
A little more than a week ago, police say a 14-year-old girl was murdered (allegedly by a family member) in rural Cass County.
As Katie Rios' friends, family members and onlookers grieved on a Facebook tribute site, local reporters were offering their own condolences, some sounding as aggrieved as if they'd actually known Rios -- and in the next breath cattle-calling the mourners for anyone willing to go on camera to talk about Rios' life.
Those expressing condolences and then issuing blanket requests for comments included Fox 4's Tess Koppelman and a producer working on behalf of KCTV 5's Eric Chaloux. KSHB's Russ Ptacek avoided the dramatic emotions and was forthright in his request for comment.
To us, the heavy-handed condolences made the TV journos look like vultures. And the Facebook spamming looked lazy -- how would they differentiate Rios' real friends from someone who just wanted to be on TV? It looked to us as if the TV reporters didn't want to make the effort or take the time to send a direct e-mail to the person who created the page or individual messages to Rios friends.
Koppelman responded to my post on her blog, Reporting Live. She titled her post "Those Evil Vultures." She joked about the TV reporter stereotype of being heartless and
soulless and learning how to swoop in like a vulture in J-school. She also called me
"self-righteous" and wrote that she doesn't take the criticism personally. Thanks, Tess -- and sorry I misspelled your name in the original post. Then
she pointed out something I hadn't seen.
She'sright. It is a sweet note. So this week's comment of the week goes to
Koppelman's parents, Jan & Kent, for their heartfelt defense of
their daughter:
Next time, if I want a quote fromKoppelman, I'll leave her a message on Facebook.
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